Are you afraid of criticism and rejection of your ideas? I noticed that people around are not ready to reveal their real opinion for several reasons. Firstly, they are afraid to spoil the relationship, secondly, they want to support you, and thirdly, they themselves do not realize that they are lying.
A "white lie" is not necessarily a blatant lie. You may be asked to correct some details without reporting flaws that are more noticeable from the outside. You will be praised, hiding your true, often cooler attitude towards your undertaking. As a result, an excess of enthusiasm will almost inevitably be followed by disappointment: those who do not know you will subsequently be much less emotional in their assessments.
Of course, in our life, virtual and real, there are also “trolls” who say nasty things, but now we are talking about the reviews of people who are friendly to you and whom you trust. How to achieve honesty?
1. ACCEPT CRITIQUE
Unflattering comments are frustrating, but if you want to improve something, they can be a valuable tool. Not all comments are fair, and critics can be wrong too. But if you make it clear that you are able to withstand criticism without outbursts of rage, most likely, the degree of sincerity in others will increase.
2. ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS
Here are some questions to help you see the truth even under the veil of flattery:
What did you dislike the most (about my performance, product, new look)?
What needs to be done to make my project from good to the best?
Would you buy this? If not, why not?
3. READ BETWEEN THE LINES
Pay attention to what was not said, be attentive to details that were not mentioned. For example, you run a food blog - do your friends cook according to your recipes?
4. POST YOUR IDEAS ON FORUMS
Forums are a way to get feedback without personal contact. Virtuality is liberating: if people don't like you, they will say so. You will have to deal with tactlessness, intolerance and stereotyped thinking. But this is good: the world will not feel sorry for you, so “rose-colored glasses” only get in the way on the path to success.
If a friend or acquaintance is reluctant to buy or recommend your product, they may not have a high opinion of it.
The best feedback comes from the world as a whole, not from a group of people close to you. Do you want to know if you write well? Start a blog or publish a novel. Want to know if people like your product? Start selling it in limited edition.
7. FIND A PERSON WHO TELLS THE TRUTH IN EVERY SITUATION
You have a choice. Decide what you need more - praise or honesty? Praise lifts your spirits when the results are not so important. What difference does it make if your crafts are sold if this hobby brings you so much pleasure? When it is important for you to achieve a goal, an honest evaluation is essential. It not only beats self-esteem, but also teaches you to work on yourself.
