You took this rash step and left him, or he himself decided to end the relationship, it doesn’t matter, because now you are reading this article for some reason. And so you set out to get the guy back. If you're just not his person, there's nothing you can do about it. But since your wrong actions served as the reason for the breakup, and once he was really happy next to you, you can try to return everything.
Consider the problem in specific situations.
So, the first situation. You are to blame. How to get back the guy you dumped.
Often girls, loving a guy, foolishly leave him. It happens unconsciously. For example, a girl doubts the feelings of her beloved and tries with the phrase: “Let's break up” to push the young man to show any emotions. She hopes that he will start begging her not to leave, showering her with declarations of love. But not all guys are ready to give a damn about pride. How would they know that girls out of desperation utter words that hurt in the heart.In this case, be sure to talk frankly with him, discard pride. She certainly did not bring happiness to anyone. Open up to him, explain that you made a stupid attempt to ignite a spark in a relationship. You can even justify yourself by watching the series. Well, those where the hero on his knees begs the sweetheart to give him a second chance.
Or maybe you cheated on him, tired of the relationship, wanting something new. And now you constantly, you do not stop thinking about him and repent, realizing that you have lost a very dear person. Cheating is hard to forgive, especially for men. They are more proud and vulnerable than women. Yeah, because men do not have the talent to find a million excuses for a loved one to the same extent as the opposite sex. In this case, forgiveness will have to be earned, and trust too.
Perhaps, for the sake of love, you will even have to change your lifestyle (stop going to nightclubs, start dressing more modestly and exclude all kinds of flirting). The guy must understand that you are really ready to change for him and sincerely regret your betrayal. Show him the bright side of your personality. If he doesn't even want to talk to you at first, that's fine. Don't force yourself, but don't give up. Offer to remain friends and prove that you can be trusted. If he cares about you, he will forgive you and everything will work out.
If you left him because of a vile act that he did, then everything is clear. But for some reason you long for his return, you are ready to forgive everything for the sake of maintaining relations. Think about whether you need such a relationship. Isn't it an addiction?
You thought it was love after all. Let the ex-lover know that you are not ready to endure his past mistakes again, although you have forgiven him. Raising a trusting and innocent look at him, hug and say: “You are very dear to me and I don’t want to ruin everything that we had because of insults. I believe you won't make me cry again." After such words, a loving man will do everything in his power so as not to hurt his beloved girlfriend. It is very important to forgive and forget. Believe me, if you constantly remind him of his past jambs, he will leave.
Situation two. How to get back the guy who dumped you.
If the guy himself left you, then you need to analyze the value of the past relationship well. When they love, they don't leave. At least they rarely do it.Perhaps the guy did not stop loving you, but he has a mental, financial crisis, a lot of problems, and he went into himself. Maybe even he is ashamed of the fact that he is not able to give you expensive gifts and drive you to restaurants as before. This is if you are above him in social status and from a more affluent family.
Talk to him frankly, but do not put pressure on an already depressed person. Say that you value him first of all as a person, regardless of his financial and other capabilities.
If he left you for another girl but you know he loves you. A guy can't go to a girl he doesn't feel anything for. Well, he's not a masochist. Admit that he wanted it that way, that's why he did it. Don't waste time on it. In the event that he broke up with you due to betrayal on your part, it is easy to understand him - he is trying to take revenge or find an outlet in another person. Of course, you do not need to try to recapture it from another. But asking for forgiveness and starting to change for the better (read in the first situation) is necessary. Maybe his relationship is not real (for example, he asked a friend to help arouse your jealousy). Then he will return. In any case, you should not go over the heads, no one will appreciate this.
He could well break up with you due to the fact that you became uninteresting to him. You've been reading a book for a long time, and when was the last time you changed your haircut? A man who is both beautiful, and well-groomed, and not stupid, able to support any conversation, give it.
Try to find new hobbies for yourself, sign up for courses (the main thing is that they contribute to self-development). Don't do it for show, find a hobby that will make your eyes shine with pleasure. If you like to cook, take a cooking course. Go in for sports, pump up your figure, buy a dress that suits you. Be the one you want to be. Perhaps, when you achieve a certain result, you don’t want to think about the former anymore.
Also, men often leave quite beautiful and interesting “princesses” in communication who do not know the basics of building relationships with a man.
If you like to criticize, humiliate, ridicule, even as a joke, don't be surprised. Men are very selfish. They take criticism painfully. They need to be respected and admired. In this case, read literature on the psychology of men, instead of glossy magazines. He's dating you, not your purse. A man is ready to spend the rest of his life with a person who deeply appreciates and respects him, ready to support him in all endeavors. An empty painted doll is not of particular interest to him, if we talk about the prospect of a long-term and serious relationship. 
How to get a guy back if he doesn't want to talk.
When a guy blacklists you on social media or just doesn't return calls or texts, it's hard to connect, but it's possible. He probably still has not forgotten you and is afraid that your meeting will stir up his feelings and hurt him. Therefore, he tries to remain invulnerable.You don’t need to run after him, but you shouldn’t show your disdain with your whole appearance. Be polite when you meet him, smile. Try to make friends (not intrusively) with his friends. Show yourself as a worthy candidate for any guy. For men, the opinion of friends is very important, so his friends should like you as a person. Most importantly, don't play with them. Otherwise, you will cause disgust on his part. Take care of yourself, develop yourself.
If you do not have mutual acquaintances, you should not try to find his friends on social networks on his page and try to make friends with them. That's funny.
It is not necessary to visit every day the places where he happens (gym, institute, work). Well, he won’t believe that you decided to sign up for the same fitness club without any intentions at his expense.
If, but, at the same time, does not invite you to a meeting or does not make specific promises, there is no need to rush to regard this as a return.
What actions should not be taken when trying to get your ex-boyfriend back
- No need to call him 345 times if he doesn't answer or hangs up. Don't bombard him with messages about how bad he is or how much you miss him.
- You should not try to cause jealousy by immediately starting a new relationship. It's not nice for the three of you. You won't prove anything, but you'll piss off the guy. Who needs such a windy girl?
- Never try to do something to yourself. He'll think you're mentally unstable. Such people cause pity and even fear (where did I get myself into?).
- No need to start "hanging out" in clubs, trying to look like a sort of vamp. Is not cool. A healthy lifestyle is in fashion, and every conscious young man strives to find a sports girl who will give him healthy, I repeat, offspring in the future. Why would you spoil your health and beauty by spending time in a smoky club? Better sign up for a fitness room or buy a stylish suit and start jogging in the morning.
- Don't try to logically convince him that you are the one who will make him happy. Love is a delicate thing and rationality is only a hindrance. Emotions cannot be influenced by logic, you need to touch the strings of the soul. And you can do this if you really are filled with love for him. Love is the energy that another person feels, so radiate it (it can be the timbre of the voice, a smile, a gentle look).
- Don't go to witches. It is impossible with the help of a love spell to cause true love in a person. This is witchcraft and manipulation, which, if it gives an effect, will then lead to devastating consequences for him and you.
- No need to guard him at the door, toss notes with quotes from the classics. It is rather more suitable for men, because women are so greedy for beautiful phrases.
- No need to try to rush to radically change your appearance: cut your long hair, dye it red from black, go on a diet (if you are so slim, anorexia is not good) and sign up for boxing. Of course, he will be surprised, but he fell in love with you differently, didn't he? Try to remember how you looked and behaved during the period of your acquaintance. Of course, it doesn’t hurt to improve yourself physically, but you don’t have to become a completely different person. He may feel that you have finally become a stranger to him.
“You need to show that you are not at all bad without him.” Vladislav.
"To be original and unique."
Grant.
"Admit being wrong."
Sergey.
“Carefully analyze all the time of the relationship and try to identify what caused the breakup. If there is a girl’s fault, efforts must be made to improve. If the guy left because of his badness or found another (betrayal), then try to come to terms and let go ... you won’t be forced to be sweet.
Andrew.
“Well, first of all, there must be sincerity in the words. You can cry a little. You still need to feed him properly.”
Novel.
“You need to let the guy understand that the girl is able to perform the main female functions in a relationship: to be a friend, an “object” of beauty, an assistant, a housewife, a mother, a lover, finally. Only a fool would let go of such a woman.”
Alexei.
“Whims in moderation. Soft character. Submission to the guy. The guy does not want anything bad for his beloved. So he should be submissive.”
Timur.
“Meet and talk calmly. Figure out what went wrong."
Vladimir.
“Show your weakness and humility. Don't show off.'
Arkady.
“You need to open up to your loved one completely, open your soul to him and thereby prove his importance to you.”
Vladislav.
"Buy him a PlayStation 4."
Ruslan.
“Come up and ask:“ Do you want to eat?
Nikita.
“Stop taking out brains (control, far-fetched grievances, attempts to rebuild it in your own way.”
Denis. 
To summarize!
Girls, of course there are a lot of tips everywhere. But each case is individual, so you should not act on the basis of them alone. Relax and think about what makes your lover different from other guys. What he likes and what he does not accept. Guys are all very different, each has its own characteristics and preferences. Focus on it, and not just on articles from the Internet. In any case, we hope that you have learned something useful from our material.Do not forget that you are beautiful and there is no need to shed tears for someone who himself wanted to leave you. Maybe tomorrow you will meet your true love and realize that the previous relationship was defective and unhealthy.
Main rules: be positive (sincerely, not feignedly); develop internally as a person (you can, for example, do charity work); do not forget to monitor your appearance (clean hair, neat makeup, proper nutrition and sports). Every guy will be drawn to such a girl, but you just have to choose your own!
